As I was thinking about what to write for my first newsletter “Success” sprang to mind. We all want success and, in when you think about it, success is so subjective. What success means to you is something different to what it means to me.
This is the first in a series of articles about the principles for success – for everyone.
We look at someone we consider to be successful and wonder how do they do it. Or, we might say – he was so lucky … Well, let me share with you, luck is winning the lottery, success is the result of hard work, consistently and persistently. I have a friend who told me that the harder he worked, the luckier he became. George Washington said “Discipline is the soul of an army. It makes small numbers formidable, procures success to the weak, and esteem to all.”
What is success for you.
The first principle of success is to know your outcome – what do you want. If you don’t know what you want, how will you know when you are successful?
And how do you get the outcome you want, you might ask.
The keys to an achievable outcome are:
- It must be stated in the positive. We are all about moving forward toward our goals, toward what we want.
So let’s look at this in relation to, say, building a house. The outcome is – We will own a beautiful cream brick house overlooking the park in the beach-side suburb of Aldinga Beach. This house has enough land so we can enjoy some garden with some fruit trees, a rotary clothes line and a large shed without it looking cramped. We want the block to be facing north south so we can optimise the winter sun and the solar panels on the roof. This will enable us to look out to the south and not have sun come in the windows which will ensure the house is cooler in the summer. The back room facing north will be large enough to accommodate my craft work and give me great light by which I can work. The added advantage is that there will be a door opening out onto the patio and the room could be used as a third bedroom for a prospective purchaser in time to time.
- Specify the present position. Where are you now? Unless we take this into account we won’t know from where to start measuring our progress. When you think about where you are right now, do you have a picture in your mind? What are you seeing, hearing and feeling? What are you telling yourself? Write it down in your journal – then you have a record, something to refer to when you are measuring your success.
The current situation is that we are living in a small house and while we do have some of the things we want in a house, we don’t have them all and in fact the house is too small for our retirement needs. There is a new development starting shortly nearby and we have our eye on a suitable block.
- It’s imperative that you specify exactly what you want, what your outcome will be, what you will see, what you will hear and feel. When you have achieved that outcome, what will you be telling yourself. And as you are visualising your outcome
- Act as if you have that outcome right now.
- As you have that picture on the screen of your mind, intensify the properties of that picture – make it brighter, close up and in 3D – if that’s what it takes for you to feel, to really feel your outcome, your compelling outcome.
- And you can see yourself in the picture achieving this outcome in the future, can you not?
We are living in this gorgeous cream brick house with the green roof and the shed which is large enough to accommodate my husband’s toys, there is also enough room down the side of the fence for his birds and the garden is big enough for us to manage. Outside my office there is a peaceful garden on the skinny side of the house and there are some gorgeous flowers there. I find this very peaceful and it also helps to keep the house a little cooler in the summer time. At the back of our house I have my craft room facing north and optimising the winter sun. The light is exceptional and there is plenty of room for my craft activities. When people come to stay I can convert the room into another bedroom so there is plenty of room for everyone. The house faces the right direction and it has a really great feel about it. I love this house and it makes me feel really good.
- Remember we started this journey from where you are right now so we had a benchmark – something to measure your progress. Well now it’s time to use that starting point and think about how you will know when you have the outcome – what will your evidence be? This may be a certain number of customers or a specific sum of money in the bank or, perhaps, something else that works for you. How will you know when you have “made it”.
The evidence for our having achieved our goal is the handing over of the key from the builder and then our moving into the house.
- Is this outcome in line with your values? What will having this outcome get for you, what will it allow you to do?
Having this outcome will mean I can have some room to do my craft work, my husband can have some room for his toys and the work he likes to do in the shed. Essentially we will not be so crowded and we both feel like it’s home. We have a very comfortable place for our retirement.
- Is this outcome something you want for yourself, is it what you really want. If it’s not what YOU want and you are only wanting it for someone else, that is nice, however it will only have the compelling force to carry you through to the finishing line when you will feel complete and fulfilled if this is what you want.
This is something we both wanted.
- Where, when, how and with whom do you want it. Who’s going with you? When do you want to have your outcome manifest itself? Who will be involved? How will you bring it about, where will it take place.
This house belongs to both of us and we have found a very good builder to help us make it all happen the way we want.
- What resources are needed – what do you need right now and what do you need right now that you can do without just for the moment, what else do you need to bring your outcome into being? You may want to consider a couple of things to help you here
- Have you done this before
- Do you know anyone who has – you might like to ask what they did so you can have a better understanding of what is involved
- Can you act as if you have already achieved the outcome.
Resources are always a wonderful thing and we have built a house before so we are a bit more aware of some of the pitfalls. And so basically the resources we want are:
- Money – coming from investments and the sale of our existing house
- Builder – we have canvassed the show homes and found a builder we are happy with
- Homework – we have considered many plans for houses and visited numerous houses to check out features, we have made a list of all the things that we want in the house and considered how our existing furniture will fit in, what do we want to discard and what will we need to acquire, we have also checked out various fittings and other features such as the stove and heating.
- Is your outcome ecological – what will the consequences of your actions be, for you, for your family, for your community, for the environment, for the nation, for the world. For what purpose do you want this outcome, what will you gain or lose when you have the outcome. Something to consider:
- What will happen if you get it?
- What won’t happen if you get it?
- What will happen if you don’t get it?
- What won’t happen if you do get it?
Ecology is the study of consequences of our actions. For us this new house will mean we have enough room to spread ourselves, to enjoy our retirement. There are many other houses in the new estate and so we will have new neighbours.
When we achieve our outcome, we will enjoy the twilight years in our new house
What won’t happen if we get it – we will not be going to Europe or on long holidays for a very long time
What will happen if we don’t get it – we will remain in our existing crowded house and possible look for other outlets to enjoy our retirement.
And what won’t happen if we don’t get it – we won’t have the luxury of space to enjoy the trappings of retirement.
How about you – have you worked out the outcome you are looking for?
Has your outcome changed? If so, how?
Do you need any help with this? Is this presenting you with a challenge? Has it given you something to think about? Are you ready to play a bigger game? If so, email me to take this further – firstname.lastname@example.org
Every champion deserves a coach, why not you?