I thought I’d talk a little more about Gratitude – and the need to have an attitude of gratitude.
Thank you – just two little words that can make a world of difference to both the giver and the receiver.
When we take the time to really appreciate things, whether it’s the smell of a rose or a kind gesture, a peaceful moment or a good book, we feel good about ourselves. Just take a moment to be truly grateful for those little things in life that make such a difference.
Gratitude is a state of thankfulness and appreciation. Appreciating something involves taking the time to notice it and then acknowledge its value and meaning as well as the feeling of a positive emotional connection.
When you stop to smell the roses, do you have a picture on the screen of your mind? Describe it – in detail. What are you seeing? Yourself in the picture smelling the rose or just the rose? Try both ways and notice the difference.
What colour is the rose? Is the colour vivid or wishy-washy? Are the lines of the petals smooth and defined or jagged. What is the texture of the petals?
Are there any sounds involved?
Are there any feelings present? And what about the smell – the perfume?
And when you smelled the rose, did that trigger off a fond memory from the past and, suddenly and seemingly for no reason at all, you found yourself transported to another world – and just for a moment you were reliving that time again and all the time feeling so grateful for the time you took to stop and smell the roses. Who needs a time machine when you have a store of beautiful memories – sometimes the key to the door of those memories can be opened with the luxury of a little time out to smell the roses.
*Paradoxically, in our consumer society with its wealth of material comforts, the expression of genuine gratitude can be quite hard for many of us – partly because we have grown accustomed to on-demand instant gratification, a quick fix. Materialistic striving – the hedonic treadmill – is strongly associated with life dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
Expressions of gratitude have the potential to reduce materialistic strivings and, through doing so, may reduce the negative impact of materialistic strivings on our levels of life satisfaction.
*A quote from Eight Steps to Happiness – Dr Anthony M Grant and Alison Leigh.
Once upon a time people wrote letters to say thank you, whether it was for a gift, some hospitality or an act of kindness. When you were invited to someone’s house you always took a small gift for the hostess – just to say thank you. Thank you for inviting me to share with you.
Gratitude is about feeling gracious, thankful and appreciative. It involves both the giver and the receiver. So next time someone pays you a compliment – just smile and say “Thank you”.
When you do that both of you are left with a good feeling for the rest of the day.
When you respond with something like – it was nothing – don’t mention it – or you cheapen their remark by saying something like “ oh this old thing” or “it was only $2 in Cheap as Chips” – you have robbed the giver and also yourself.
I invite you to give it a go for a week and let me know how differently you feel about life and yourself. How did people react?
A smile is the most inexpensive gift you can give and – best of all – it’s contagious.
Thank you – two very powerful and positive words.
Until next time, just remember every champion deserves a coach, why not you?