Behavioural Flexibility – the ability to be flexible around what you do.

When your behaviour is rigid, you have always done it (whatever it may be) this way so why should you change?

Well that may be fine provided you are getting the results you want.  However, when you want to take your business, your relationship, your life to the next level, chances are you will be more successful when you decide to be more flexible.

A few weeks ago I was assisting a friend run her workshop.  The delegates usually sit on chairs and take notes, however on this occasion several delegates were complaining about a sore back and so my friend brought a table into the room so they could rest their notebooks on the table to take their notes.  

The introduction of the table was a little inconvenient because it meant there was less space and it was also something she hadn’t been asked to do before. 

So what would have happened had she remained inflexible and told the delegates that was the way it was so put up with it?  Instead she elected to be flexible which demonstrated she cared for the wellbeing of the delegates and, in return, they were able to enjoy the workshop and give her glowing testimonials.

The cost of inflexibility can be very high and sometimes damaging.

This can happen relationships too where one person refuses to budge because s/he has always done it (whatever) in a specific way or their need to be right is more important to them than the need of the whole.  When you refuse to entertain flexibility, consider the cost.  Is this something you are prepared to wear?  Where is the focus more usefully employed?  Is being right or getting your own way more important than getting the result you want, getting on with the job at hand?

Hey, give it a go and if it doesn’t work you at least have the feedback to know it doesn’t work.  What if you found a new way to peg the clothes on the line that was more helpful, left no peg marks and resulted in less ironing?

Who do you think you are to be so inflexible?  Are you so arrogant to believe your way is the only way?  Or are you flexible enough to give it a go.  After all, if the new way doesn’t work, at least you now know one more way not to do something.

Let me just leave you with something to consider:

  • What will happen if you do?
  • What will happen if you don’t?
  • What won’t happen if you do?
  • What won’t happen if you don’t?

Talk soon.