Motivation can sound like something out of a corporate seminar or, possibly, you may associate the word with something that Tony Robbins might be famous for and possibly something that is far removed from your world.
And yet, we all are motivated to do something. Why do you get out of bed in the morning? What is driving you to do that? What is driving you to pursue a relationship, a career change, a new car or some other item you yearn for? Whatever it is, it is motivation.
Why would you want to be motivated? After all, plodding along on a daily basis, taking things as they come, just hanging about doing the same old things day in and day out can be pretty comfortable. Who needs to do anything?
I wonder what our lives might look like without motivation. How would we manage with all the toys we have to play with – items like the phone, the computer, the car or new clothes, places we go to, people we hang out with. What is it about those things that makes us do something to acquire them and/or enjoy the experience they bring with them? What is our intention around those things?
Recently I acquired some pretty cups, saucers and plates when I went on an excursion with the Probus ladies. Now I really have heaps of afternoon tea things so why would I want more? I really don’t need any more and yet these items somehow just found their way into my world.
Part of the experience in going to the shop with the Probus ladies was to experience the high tea put on by the shop – you know with posh cups and saucers, fancy sandwiches, cakes, scones and cream. It was, perhaps, frivolous but, nonetheless, it was fun and everyone felt good afterwards.
It was then my friend and I hatched a plan – we would have our own high tea with the goal of letting our other friend, who had recently been widowed, that we were thinking of her in her grief and that we loved her. We knew our friend enjoyed some of the finer things in life and what better way to enjoy those things than to have a high tea.
Loving someone is an emotion. Emotions are what people are all about. When we express emotion, we demonstrate we are human. As the song goes people who need people are the luckiest people in the world. We all need people and sometimes we just need to be reminded of the need to allow them in to our lives.
Of course, it would be easy to not do anything and it was also easy to let our friend know she was not alone and we loved her. Yes, it did take some effort and planning and cleaning up – in general, a small price to pay to bring some colour into the grey of someone’s life.
Getting around to something is being motivated. Motivation is powered by emotion.
When you think life’s boring, there’s nothing to do, no-one has rung you or asked you to come and have coffee with them or whatever, when you are feeling down/depressed or anxious about something, I invite you to take a couple of deep breaths, look beyond the now and ask yourself
What or who (outside of myself) could I focus on today?
What is one thing I could do for someone else (for which I will not seek recognition or acknowledgement)?
And you may just be surprised – rewards come in different ways.
Who are you being in that moment?
Dr Wayne Dyer talks about The Power of Intention – Learning to Co-create Your World Your Way.
At the beginning of that book he has a quote from Carlos Castaneda –
In the Universe there is an immeasurable, indescribable force which shamans call intent, and absolutely everything that exists in the entire cosmos is attached to intent by a connecting link.
What are your intentions when contemplating getting around to doing something/not doing something?
Until next time
Life Coach Adelaide