Goal setting has always sounded lofty and corporate-like to me and something I shied away from – well, consciously that is. I never really understood the power of this amazing tool and yet I was already using it in some ways. Funny how life is sometimes!
For instance, I always knew I wanted to travel. I didn’t know why I wanted to travel except, perhaps, because my favourite aunt had travelled and I just wanted to be like her. She always seemed to be together somehow and that’s one of the things I definitely wanted to be – together. I had no idea what lay in store for me – I just knew it was something I had to do – already my strong desire (need) is coming through.
My first step was to go to Darwin where I met my husband. When he popped the question, I remember telling him there were two conditions – one of which was that I wanted to travel and if we were to get married, we would be travelling overseas. I think he wondered what he had struck but I was so committed to this goal nothing was going to get in my way.
At different times I’m sure most people have read something about goal setting and while some people actually commit themselves to that goal, many people are more inclined to be complacent, lie back and let life happen to them. These are the very same people who tell the goal setters how lucky they are because …. Meaning the goal setter has whatever it is the laid back person would like to have just fall into his lap.
Now I think the lucky person is the person who knows what she wants because all too often people float through life without knowing what they want. Knowing what you want is a vital part of any goal – after all if you don’t know what you want – how on earth will you know when you’ve got it – or not?
Before we start setting goals, the most fundamental thing to get on top of is WHY. Why is this goal important to you? What is your purpose? What is your purpose in achieving this goal? What will this goal give you? What won’t it give you? What will it not give you and what won’t it not give you?
It’s probably worth noting that whatever we do, we do for a reason, be it conscious or unconscious. We do what we do to satisfy or fulfil a need. Not all goals need be lofty and gung-ho. In fact, most goals are really mundane. For example, what is your purpose in turning on a tap? Perhaps you’re thirsty and want a drink of water or perhaps you just want to soak in the bath after an exacting day in the garden. Everything we do, we do for a purpose, to fulfil a need, a want, a desire.
The purposeful goals are the ones we set on purpose – that is with a conscious purpose in mind. One of my goals is to help as many people as I can help themselves achieve their goals and really get to know themselves, to understand what’s blocking their progress, to help them overcome obstacles and come to terms with what they truly want out of life. The point is we only have one shot t life so it’s important to make the most of it, regardless of when we start. I’ve had people tell me they are too old to change – I say “fiddledee” to that – what has age got to do with someone achieving fulfilment and satisfaction in their lives? Right now is the only time that matters. What’s one small step you could take right now that would start your journey on the rest of your life. Wasn’t it Confucius who said that the journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step?
Recently one of my friends passed away aged just 65. This lady was the essence of love and the funeral parlour was packed to the rafters with her friends and family. What was it about this lady that generated such a following? My experience in her presence was pure love and that was her legacy.
We all come for a purpose and some of us are fast workers while others take a little longer. Some time ago I met this lady who had recently lost a baby after a couple of days. She was telling me how the little girl had given her the greatest gift of all, the gift of love experienced between a mother and child. This was something the lady told me she never thought she would experience. How absolutely amazing to think the little baby made that long journey for the sole purpose of bringing that gift of love to her mother before departing this earthly life.
So let me ask you – what’s your purpose? Where are you going? Are you going alone or are you looking for a travelling companion?
If you’d like to explore this further, please feel free to contact me for a free session – that is free of obligation, free of judgment and free of charge – just go to http://www.marghobby.com.au/free-coaching-session/ fill out the form and, hey presto, I will get back to you to make a time for a chat.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Until next time
Life Coach Adelaide