Have you ever experienced a time when the battery in your car went flat? Maybe you left the lights on when you parked the car or perhaps the battery just expired.
That can also happen to each of us. Sometimes we are so busy with life that we forget to take care of ourselves and this can lead to catastrophic results.
Prolonged stress, for example, can manifest in different ways in our bodies from chronic heart problems to obesity to infertility and beyond. The answer is not as easy as just taking a stress pill – something from outside us.
Everything starts with a thought. We all have thousands of thoughts a day – some of them are fleeting thoughts and are gone as quickly as they came and some of them stay a little longer, while others never seem to leave us.
Some of these longer staying thoughts, after filtering through our own unique internal sieves, evoke specific emotions, that is, they leave us feeling really good about ourselves or, sometimes, not so good. And what happens then – we do something, we take action.
Let’s take a look at an example. Mary works in an office in the city. She has a particularly stressful position with people making demands on her time from the moment she gets in the office door – everyone wants her to make something happen for their benefit and they all want it NOW!. Mary is a particularly diligent person who makes it one of her top priorities to keep all these people (her customer) happy and it seems the more she does the more they want and expect.
In order for Mary to do what she needs to do to keep her customers happy, she frequently works solidly from the moment she gets to the office, and this is frequently at 7.30 am, until she leaves at 6pm. Mary then goes to class a couple of days a week because she is keen to improve her skills and her knowledge t better serve her customers which, in turn, will give her greater job satisfaction. Mary then has a long commute home to her family.
The problem with all this is that while Mary has been taking excellent care of her customers she has overlooked her family and, more importantly, herself. She is totally run down and her power of reasoning is becoming affected, her friends are withdrawing because she doesn’t always have time to do the things they like to do and life at home is fragile.
Then Mary decides to take a holiday to a far off place where there is no electricity which means everyone retires early. There are no cell phones, no TV, and no radio at her disposal. All Mary has to do is enjoy the moment. Her meals are prepared for her, the other people on tour are like-minded so she has stimulating conversation – essentially the most stressful thing she has to do is get out of bed in the morning and enjoy her day.
When Mary comes home from her holiday she is bright, happy, full of life and energy – she is her old self and ready to go.
Let me ask you – how bad does it have to get before you do something about your situation and about taking care of yourself?
Last month I went to Lord Howe Island on a walking tour for a week. Lord Howe Island is an island (actually it’s the top f an old volcanic mountain) 500 kms east of Port Macquarie in NSW. The air and the water is pristine, the scenery is breathtaking, there’s good walking every day if you want, the food is wholesome and, generally, a great place to recharge your batteries.
However you do it, taking good care of yourself is paramount. It’s all about loving yourself enough to do what you need to do so you can have what you want – and that will be different for each of us. However, most people want to be happy, healthy and loved.
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Talk soon
Life Coach Adelaide