I wonder how you might feel if you found a magical way to transport yourself from a place of feeling stuck in the pain of a problem to the pleasure of a solution that worked for you?

It may surprise you to discover this is completely within your grasp and control. It is something you can do in a moment or it may take a lifetime – it’s all about you and the choices you make.

Have you ever found yourself looking at a tree and thinking something like … it looks a bit out of balance with that bough on the right stretching so far out there while there are two quite strong branches resembling columns on the right? Somehow there seems to be more foliage on the left, etc…

And then you decide to take a look at that same tree from the other side and it looks different. In fact you are looking at the same tree from a different point of view.

This is the same with the challenges life presents to us all. We all have the resources within us right now to get to where we want to go. It is just a matter of choice whether we take this path or another, whether our chosen path is the path that will take us to where we want to go. And how do we know?

In the last couple of blog posts we were talking about who we were going to be in 2019 – the Victim or the Creator. This post is really an extension of that discussion.

When we look at things differently, the meaning we attach to those things changes, we change our attitude to those things and/or the circumstances surrounding them.

At the end of the day, it’s still the same tree and yet it’s not.

Now, I wonder what could happen if you were to find yourself confronting a situation you call “a problem”.

It can help when you define the problem, specifically. How is the issue a problem for you? How, specifically?

Second – what is the problem not? What are the circumstances/issues/characteristics of everything about the problem not? How do you they are not – what is your evidence?

So, what were you pretending not to know in order to have thought you had that problem?

And that’s why you’ve made those changes haven’t you?

So, what will you be doing differently tomorrow now that you’ve made those changes?


I have found this process very useful when dealing with issues around depression and anxiety. A change of mindset can be like a gift from the Universe and this is some of the stuff we discover in personal life coaching sessions.

Until next time

Marg Hobby

Adelaide Life Coach